It took a few false starts for me to finally get this blog post to say what I wanted it to say. This being the first official post of the series, I wanted to make sure it was truly the right words. The fact is there is a whole lot to say, but which are the right words? And there in lies my problem. When I get like this, not much get done.
Second-guessing myself has been something I’ve done a whole lot in my life. Sometimes it got so bad, I stayed stuck in one place for a very long time. It was too hard to make a decision and stick with it, because I never could be confident enough to step out and keep stepping outward. It seemed easier to stay in one place.
It’s not, however. Stuck is stuck and that means nothing new or anything truly meaningful will happen. Only the same stuff over and over. Dreams fly by, and they are just that–dreams. They never become real. And discontent grows to the point where there’s no hope for the future. Day after day goes by, and it feels like a prison. You don’t need to die to go to hell–you are already there.
Yes, we can and do create our own hells. It happens everyday. The worst part is you never know when it starts. One day you are okay and then you realize nothing is okay. Or maybe nothing ever was okay.
But one thing I’ve learned is that life is what you make of it. You want a happy life, then imagine yourself in that happy life. And not just every once in awhile–imagine it all the time. Be specific about what you want. Know what you even want. Don’t think about all the obstacles standing in the way. Those don’t really matter. It’s a way of stuck thinking. If you truly want something bad enough, you are going to get it, and nothing will stop you.
Guess when the trouble comes in?
Second guessing yourself.
Happens to me all the time. I wonder if I truly deserve what I want. I wonder if I’m going about it the right way. I wonder if maybe I don’t really want this and I want something else. And then I start questioning everything about everything. It’s a doozy of a cycle to break, but it can be done.
All you need to do is believe in yourself. Trust that you really do know what you are doing. Or that when you really need something, a solution will appear. The world really isn’t out to get you. Only you are out to get you. You are your worst enemy. Let’s face it. Everyone else is way too busy living their own lives to care about destroying your life. It’s true. I promise.
Don’t worry about what other people do, or say. Don’t get sucked up in the drama. Don’t make excuses a mile long. Just believe and trust, trust and believe. Take things one step at a time. Know what you want and go for it. Why not? The clock is ticking and no one is getting any younger
Even if it was possible, I’m not sure I would want to stop time or reverse my age. I am proud of who I am, and the things I have done, and the things I will do. And I only reached the point that I can boldly say this because I have reduced how much I second guess myself.
Notice I said reduced. Because I’m not perfect. There are still days when I stumble and fall. Maybe a lot of days I stumble and fall, but I always pick myself up and I always keep on going, because I know that “this too shall pass”. Things will get better, because I know they will. I believe they will, and I believe in myself enough to know that I’ve got this. Whatever it is–I’ve got this.
You do too. I promise you that, too. All you have to do is believe in yourself. Believe you can do whatever it is you truly want to do. Trust that you will find a way to make it happen. Don’t get scared off by the big picture. Take it in tiny bits. Step by step. Little at a time. Eventually you’ll look back and be surprised at how far you’ve gone, and then you really will understand anything is truly possible.
Belief is a powerful thing. It can move mountains. It really can. I’ve already moved huge mountains in my life that at one point I thought were absolutely unmovable. In fact, nothing is absolute unless you believe it to be so.
One thing is certain. I believe in me. That is my highest truth, and that is why I chose this to write about first. I also trust in myself to make the right choices as I go forward, and if I make a mistake, then maybe there was a lesson in there somewhere I needed to learn.
Life is uncertain at best. No one can plot a course with any absolute destinations (or unscheduled pit-stops), but the one thing that can be relied on is you. Who you are. What you can do. How you can face each situation with your best possible self. Just trust and believe, and watch the miracles unfold right before your eyes.