If you read my Speak Your Truth post on Why Is There So Much Hostility In My Life?, then perhaps you have taken the time to identify that some self-work may be needed to break damaging cycles. The best way to do this is through having plenty of self-compassion for yourself.
I don’t know about you, but I have no problem giving out compassion, or a kind word to other people. I have, in fact, worked hard to be more considerate of others. But have I done the same thing to myself? Have you?
There are many ways we can be more gentle with ourselves. One major way is to do more self-care. This can be anything you take the time to do for yourself. Some of the things I like to do for myself include…
Taking nice long baths
Reading a good book
Enjoying a cup of tea
Enjoying conversation with a friend
Just sitting in silence for awhile
There are so many ways to take time for yourself. Pick a few things you love doing, and make sure to carve out time every single day for yourself. This was hard for me to do at first, but now I realize the benefits are too great to ignore. Taking time for yourself is vital if you want to increase the compassion for yourself, and others in your life.
There are times when I feel like I’m fighting the world, and the world is fighting me. I feel like someone is out to get me, and that the inner turmoil is causing real struggle. I wonder why this is happening. Why is it that everything and others seem so hostile towards me?
And then I remember… if something or someone is negatively affecting me on the outside, it first transpired on the inside. I set that standard.
We each set that standard whether we realize it or not.
Have you ever heard of the Laws of Attraction? Well, it goes both ways, positive and negative. What we put out, even to ourselves, we get back in kind.
If we are hard on ourselves…
If we don’t give ourselves enough compassion…
If we are frustrated with ourself for not doing something fast enough…
If we feel down on ourselves for making mistake after mistake…
If we blame ourselves for something…
If we don’t like ourselves for whatever reason…
If we are not honest with ourselves about something…
Chances are there may be a situation or person that is reflecting those same things you are doing to yourself.
Want to know why you’re struggling so hard on the outside? Take a look on the inside. What unkind things are you doing to yourself that needs to be healed and released?