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Why Is Self-Care Important?

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If you have been following my blog lately, you know that I have had a common theme in several of my posts on the topic of self-care. This is because this practice has taken a major front seat in my life, and since making this change, I’ve enjoyed richer life experiences.

So I would like to take the time to write out some blog posts on my knowledge of self-care and how powerful it can be, not only for myself (because it’s been a passion of mine for awhile), but anyone that might be interested in starting their own self-care practice, or those wanting validation (and support) for a the self-care practice they already have in place.

I will get the ball rolling with discussing why self-care is so important.

Self-care is the ultimate expression of love. When we love ourselves enough to care how we feel, we are showing love not just to ourselves, but others too. We can do more, be more, and share more when we are at our best. This is why self-care is an important practice to have in our lives.

The misconception is common that we should put others first, that if we take time for ourselves or focus on ourselves too much, then we are being selfish. But how can a person be a functioning member of their friends, family, or even society, if they are stressed out, frazzled, and/or too sick to give back time or effort?

When we don’t feel good (for any reason, no matter how big or small), we are not just stealing from ourselves, but every other person we come in contact with. We are stealing the opportunity to have peace, joy, love, and happiness. We are stealing the opportunity to be our best selves.

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Happy New Year and Some 2021 Resolutions!

It’s a new year! I’m so excited about all the new opportunities and possibilities a new year brings. Here’s to a new cycle of love, peace, abundance, and harmony for us all!

I have a few resolutions for 2021, and I thought I would share. The first is a big one. It’s something that 2020 really gave me a hard look at, and that was how much my life was full of a habit of fear. So I am starting a new year out with a dedication to retraining myself to have a habit of love instead.

So what does that mean exactly? It means being more gentle with myself, choosing to slow down or redirect my thoughts or attention to more loving things, situations, and outcomes. It means more positive self talk. Doing more things that feel good. Thinking good thoughts about others and situations, including envisioning good outcomes for all. And finding deeper connection with myself and others.

I have some ideas of things I can do to help that, but really I’ve already been putting new habits in place for a little while now. Habits like daily mediation, breath work, journaling, yoga, going for walks alone and sometimes with others, and just choosing fun and exciting things to focus on.

So I plan to continue these habits and be open to any new ones that might pop up. And also to tune in and see how I feel about anything before I act. If it feels too hard, then give it some space and try again.

I also want to make more journals! I love making journals. I love that creative process so much, and I already have a few ideas I can get started on over the next few weeks. I think I enjoy it so much because it’s a combination of several of my passions, which is writing, designing, and self improvement. And they have a quick turnaround. I really love being able to see a finished product in a short time from first conception of an idea. It’s great for boosting confidence too!

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Journaling Discoveries: Self-Forgiveness = More Self-Worth

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I used to be an expert at holding a grudge. I would stand firm in my personal righteousness, because that’s what we are supposed to do when wronged, right? Little did I realize that holding a grudge was actually hurting me and the other person(s).

It didn’t matter if I had a reason to be upset or not, at the end of the day I still felt like crap. In giving my anger and frustration to others, I was giving them power over me. I allowed my happiness and peace of mind to be disturbed by unhelpful emotions.

Yeah, but what about being angry and upset at myself? Because over time, I began to realize that I was far more upset with myself for “falling victim” or getting myself stuck in a bad situation, than at the situation or person that “did me wrong”. I should have known better. Why did I let that happen?

This happens to be an ongoing theme in my journals, but it was this journal entry (see image) that was the first real conscious moment in time that I realized how much I blamed myself for a vast amount of things. In fact, pretty much anything negative or anything that went wrong, I found a way to cast fault with myself.

And I know I’m not alone, this is a major issue that plagues so many people in our world. An inability to see how much we cast blame or throw guilt on ourselves, is a major cause of self-worth and self-esteem issues. And it’s such an automatic process that most people don’t even know they are doing it.

I didn’t until it started popping up in journal entries. After awhile, I started to realize that maybe the reason I wasn’t getting very far in life was because I was pointing the finger at myself too much. How can we step out in confidence and be our best, when we are constantly belittling ourselves?

It dawned on me how important forgiveness is. All forgiveness. The forgiveness of others, and of ourselves. Once I started actively forgiving, my life started to change. All the hurt feelings and old grudges started to heal, and slowly but surely my self-confidence started to emerge.

I still have a long way to go, but I acknowledge the fact that as long as I stay open to forgiving, my life will see even more improvements. Sometimes I have to do daily forgiveness. But that’s what my journals are for, so I can pour out what needs to be addressed.

I do catch myself holding grudges against others and myself from time to time, but I work through them. The important thing is I caught it, and then I do the work to address it. Sometimes a simple journal entry will do, and other times I need to write out an actual letter (that only gets seen by me). Both ways work, and both ways help me release the damaging emotions so I can be open to love and understanding.

My life has become far more peaceful and happy as I have learned the power of forgiveness. It really is true that love makes the world go round. Love really does conquer all (in a very good way).

Note: Image was taken from my book A Writer’s Wings:A Journey of Discovery and Transformation.