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Guest Post: 10 Effective Ways to Reduce Stress in the Modern World

By Elizabeth Shields

Had it up to here?  Got a lot on your plate, or feel at the end of your tether?  However, you choose to dress it up, express it, describe it, stress is a fact of modern life.  Fast-paced, permanently connected, 21st Century living can leave us frazzled and wrought.  The World Health Organization has called stress the “Health Epidemic of the 21st Century”.   Yet, it is not inevitable that we must accept stress as a permanent condition. There’s plenty of simple steps that turn the heat down on stress.  In this blog, we’ll journey through 10 effective ways to reduce and combat stress.  So, sit back, relax and read.

#1 Get Realistic about Resources

Stress is that feeling of being overwhelmed or unable to cope with mental or emotional pressure.  The mental assessment where we know our resources do not match the requirements of the to-do list.  A simple way to redress the lack of balance is to review that list, with our resources in mind.  Any more than 10 items on a to-do list for a given day is likely to feel overwhelming.  Accept the reality that you may need to say no if your resources don’t allow for it.   Practice the word “no”, remembering it is a complete sentence!

#2 Delegate

That to do list?  What can you delegate to help share the load a little?  Whether it’s finding ways to upskill a junior employee by delegating a creative or interesting project, hiring some home at help, or getting the kids involved in household tasks, delegating can be a great stress buster.  Try to avoid the guilt-trip mindset that says you are simply passing your stressful tasks onto someone else.  In the case of children, delegation of some tasks teaches responsibility and models healthy work-life balance for your kids.  Junior employees can learn a great deal and gain experience and hiring in some home help supports the local economy.   

#3 Remember the Rule of “Good Enough”

Some stress is caused by a sense we aren’t measuring up to expectations.  Remember how it felt to have a teacher write on our report we “must try harder”.  Stressful.  Yet, sometimes we place unrealistic expectations upon ourselves, in other words we fall foul to perfectionism.  When it comes to your own expectations, “good enough” is a stress-busting maxim. Aim for a good-enough job most of the time, and you’ll soon feel the weight of stress slipping away.

#4 Whose Judgement Counts?

Connected with the idea of self-expectation is the idea of others’ views on our performance and worth.  You’ll never please everyone in life.  No matter how hard you try, or how successful you are, there’s always a critic on the side-lines offering judgmental comments.  Decide now, once and for all, whose judgment matters to you.  It makes it a lot easier to trust your own decisions, actions and feel content with your choices.

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New Release: I Feel Joyful Doing… A Guided Journal

Here is the fourth journal in the Journaling To Feel Good Series called I Feel Joyful Doing... I really, really love this journal because joy has always been an emotion I admired. For a long time, I admired it from afar. But recently, this emotion has taken a big front seat in my life.

I have found that when I focus on doing things that bring me joy, I invite even more joyfulness to enter my life. It’s part of my new focus in life in general. I do whatever brings me joy (or think about what brings me joy), and life just keeps getting better and better.

Here is the official book description…

Our emotions hold the key to a happy life. The better we feel, the better our life becomes around us. In life, we have learned many ways of not feeling well, but through consistently reaching for better feelings, we can rise above to something greater. This guided journal is dedicated to finding the feeling of joyfulness and other closely related emotions, which is a wonderful first step to cultivating a lasting life of joy, love, and harmony.

This book is now available in paperback on Amazon and as a printable on Etsy.

Also, I created a Guided Journals page on this blog to be one easy place that holds all the information about my current or upcoming journals, where you can find them, and in what formats they are available in.

Hope you enjoy this book as I much as I do!

Oh, and I recently was feeling creative and put a little book promotional video together for this journal series. What do you think?

Posted in better life, empowerment, writing, writing retreat, yoga for writers

Yoga For Writers Videos

I’ve been a little quiet on my blog for awhile, because I’ve been busy with some personal projects. One of them has been actively working on completing a 200 hour training certificate to become a yoga instructor. This past week I completed all the tasks required for the certificate, including my final project, which was to teach a yoga class.

When the stay a home order came along for the recent outbreak, I thought for sure I would have to wait a long time to teach said class. However, I was fortunate enough to run across a virtual writing retreat who was looking for someone to teach a yoga class. I jumped all over that opportunity!

My next task was to plan the class. So I decided to create a yoga routine geared specifically to writers, who can spend long hours sitting. So the poses I planned for are for stretching the back, opening the hips, and strengthening the wrists, arms, and shoulders.

After the retreat, I realized that other writers might like to try this routine too. And so, I decided to post my very first yoga teaching experience on my blog for those who are into, or want to get into yoga. Or for those who just need something to do during this stay at home period.

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Speak Your Truth: Accepting Things As They Are

How many times do we wish things were different? Or a person wasn’t so loud and obnoxious? How many times have we thought about the different ways we can renovate our home or change the way we look?

Have we even stopped to appreciate a situation for what it is? Maybe there’s a reason that situation is as it is? Maybe it is trying to show us something, to teach us an important lesson?

Maybe that obnoxious person isn’t as annoying as we think? Maybe there are some amazing qualities of that person we didn’t see because we were too busy looking at the obvious?

Does our home really need a new paint job right this minute? Have we even stopped to appreciate the fact that we have a home and a roof over our heads?

Do we really need a new hairstyle, or those new flashy clothes right now? Have we stopped to see ourselves as we are? Do we love ourselves even without that new swanky outfit?

We may not like something or someone, but it’s really not necessary for us to like everything in any give moment. But not liking can lead to stress if we allow it. That’s why we seek to change things. We think that if we can make it better and to our liking, then the stress will disappear. But what about the stress of trying to change something, especially if it’s something beyond us and our immediate ability to change? What about that stress?

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Speak Your Truth: How to Make a Difference in Small Ways

There is often a misconception that in order to create positive change it must be in big and flashy ways. This is, of course, great and wonderful, but maybe some of us don’t have the energy, know-how, or realistic aspirations to make a unique and big contribution. Or perhaps, there are some who are just overwhelmed with trying to find a way to make a big splash to effect real positive change in the world. But really, some of the best and lasting changes come in much smaller ways.

For every major positive difference that we witness someone else doing to help other people or the world in general, there are hundreds, thousands, probably millions of other people doing something smaller to effect change too. If you add that up, it’s a lot of wonderful change happening all over the world.

We sometimes might be deluded into thinking that what we do or don’t do doesn’t really matter. Does it really matter if we smile to the stranger as we walk past them? Does it really matter if we let that person cut in front of us in line without cussing them out? Yes, it does.

It doesn’t take much. But if we can approach ourselves and each person we meet with a smile and compassion, then we are effecting positive change in the world. And every little bit counts. Because maybe one act of kindness a day may not seem like a lot, but if every single person were to do one thing a day that adds up fast.

What kinds of positivity and kindness can we spread?

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